Comfortably seated, you are enjoying a coffee or immersed in a captivating novel. There, a familiar figure approaches. What is your reaction? Will you get up to greet them or stay seated? Suffice to say that billions of people have already faced this dilemma. A dilemma that psychology analyses.
In fact, this situation reveals much more than a simple question of politeness. According to psychological experts, the decision depends on a number of unexpected factors. Subtle mechanisms govern each of your interactions, prompting you to behave in ways that are often unconscious.
Psychology explains your decisions
Psychology is a science that aims to dissect human behavior. Learning it is therefore an effective way to behave better in society. In terms of social relationships, while greeting each other is a silent language, it is still a powerful indicator.
Then, each person has their own way of greeting someone. With a warm handshake, a sincere hug or a simple “hello” from a distance, for example. In any case, the way you greet others transcends words and reveals the nature of your relationship.
Psychology teaches that the choice to remain seated during a greeting can unintentionally convey a message of reserve. It can even convey disinterest. This behavior, which is in principle unconscious, can be perceived negatively, particularly in formal contexts.
The significance of greeting while seated
Giving a seated greeting reflects a subtle power dynamic. The person in authority may unwittingly express their superiority by remaining seated. Conversely, a person of lower rank may choose to remain seated out of consideration for not wanting to disturb.
However, it should be emphasized that psychology does not have an answer to everything. Moreover, this gesture can just as easily be the result of a simple lack of energy, a human reality shared by all. In this case, the act should not be seen as a lack of respect, but rather as temporary fatigue.
On the other hand, standing up to greet someone is an act that shows a sincere commitment to interaction. It is a sign of respect that establishes an immediate connection, a clear signal that you value the other person. So from now on, pay attention to this small detail.
Is there a link between psychology and body language?
Psychology is one thing, and body language is another. In fact, you may not be aware of it, but you express your thoughts and emotions through gestures and postures. Studies, such as that of Charles Darwin in 1872, highlight the universality and reliability of non-verbal language.
So much so that the latter very often surpasses words. Dr. Albert Mehrabian, in his book Silent Messages, has quantified this predominance. According to his observations, only 7% of a message is conveyed by words. While 38% is conveyed by the voice and 55% by body language.
Of course, words carry weight, but it is more body language that dictates how others are perceived. In other words, studying it, in addition to psychology, will be a great asset in your social relationships, whether they are friendly, family-based, romantic or even professional.
